Do you remember Alice? Here she was sitting alone in the forest surrounded by odd creatures (randomly singing...like all great Disney movies!) and she said..."I often give very good advice, but I very seldom follow it". That my friends is me!
A little story...sit down and get comfy.
My daughter (who at the moment is 12 and in Jr. High) came to me and said she liked this boy and had asked her friends to ask his friends to ask him if he liked her (did you follow that? Good, moving on). I told her that was silly! If you want to know if a guy is interested don't rely on other people to tell you...ask him flat out and if he isn't, well...his loss you are faboo and you will find someone else. So she did! I was so proud...till it turned out he did like her and therefore I am buying a shotgun for the front porch (I see another blog entry in this). But here is the thing...I couldn't just walk up to a guy and ask if he was interested. There is NO way! I mean I flirt a little, but I can't throw myself at a guy and do the whole hehehe thing while twirling my hair and I certainly can't just walk up to someone and say "hey wanna tumble?" (at least not unless I know the guy VERY well, have been seeing him for a while and/or I'm just being silly and I' m a pretty big dork so that isn't too far off something I would say.) But girls these days are aggressive...it is scary (and actually...I'm a little embarrassed by my gender they make us look bad)! They act like they are innocent and pretend to be something they're not and then as soon as the trap shuts they do a 180 and the poor guy is like "what the fuck?" (Poor guys never see it coming...kind of sad.)
So then, you have people like me that are pretty cool cats (if I do say so myself...and I have to cause no one else will) and like to hang out and be friends with people. Marriage isn't that high on my list of to do's and neither is having more kids...so I guess I hold no appeal to guys who seem to be more into that lately. A lot of my guy friends say I would make the perfect girlfriend...but no one tests that theory (which considering some of my friends...I'm OK with!). Guys want a girl who is independent, outgoing, likes ... stuff ;) and isn't afraid of letting their man go out with his friends (but don't expect my ass to wait home for ya' i'll be with my friends!) at least until they have it and it doesn't seem to be enough for them. But then again, I also have NO problem walking away if a guy cheats on me. No second chances there...if he does it once he will do it again. Same thing with chicks...they cheat just as bad! Guys just don't want to admit it. It is true people, if a person is sexually satisfied with the one they are with...they will have no real reason to go elsewhere unless there are other problems in the relationship. If you can't talk about your problems...shame on you! Communication is key to a successful relationship (this coming from the chick who has been single for 6 years haha).
I wish that I could be all outgoing in the dating world...but I can't. I get all excitable and nervous and it is just sad to see...you will just have to trust me.
So here is my advice...if you want to take a relationship or friendship or hell even the guy at the bar a little further...say something! I missed out on a great relationship in high school cause neither he nor I said anything until we were in college!!! And we met freshman year! By then it was too late. Life is too short and people take it WAY too seriously. Just have fun and if by any chance, they aren't interested...move along. Don't dwell! It will only make you feel shitty and you shouldn't spend time worrying about it. Have fun!!!!!!!!!!! Dating is supposed to be fun...it shouldn't be stressful.
